Someone once said “if you don’t sacrifice for what you want, what you want becomes the sacrifice”
Some time ago, I was at a coffee house waiting for my sister. I reached there a bit early. All thanks to the unexpectedly lesser traffic that day.
While waiting for her, I observed that there was a sharp-looking young man sitting with a rather mature grey-haired man, most probably an octogenarian. Both seemed to be engaged in a serious conversation discussing the secret to success in their black three-piece business suits.
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With no intention to overhear what their topic of discussion was, I happened to hear a sentence by the young man.
He said, “What do you think I should start doing now to be more successful in life?”
There was silence for the next couple of moments. But then, the old man said something that left an indelible mark on my mind.
He said, “Sometimes, to be successful, you don’t really have to add more things to your lifestyle or routine. In fact, you need to give up some of them.”
His remark reflected the wisdom, experience, and the life he has lived all these years. It made me think about all these things, thoughts, preconceived notions that we need to give up to become successful immediately.
Here’s a list of things that we should stop doing to become a better version of ourselves.
Basically, there are few things that successful people never do in life in order to ensure their continuous success. In this article, I have been able to outline 7 things that are not common among successful people. They include:
1. Don’t let other people define your success
Before you can own your career and get it off the sidelines, you need to define what career success means for you. Career success starts and ends with realizing that what you want to accomplish matters more than what others want you to accomplish. And what you want to experience matters more than what others want you to experience. So long as you allow the expectations and opinions of others to dictate your career choices, you will suffer or struggle with internal conflict.
When you let other people put their expectations on you and define what success should look like for your life, you risk becoming miserable. You can’t experience success if you are being pulled around trying to align yourself with standards and career expectations that other people set.
To experience meaningful career success, you must have the courage to go after what you want even when it might disappoint other people. To be successful, you first have to get real honest with yourself. Decide what you truly want to do with your personal life and professional career and make it your priority.
2. Don’t let the gap between where you are and where you want to discourage you
You’ll never get anywhere other than where you are right now if you don’t first get started. Don’t let the gap between where you are today and where you want to be tomorrow cause you to feel deflated. Don’t let the distance between where your career is today and where you want it to be tomorrow discourage or paralyze you. And don’t let your own mind and negative thoughts stop you either.
Successful people know they can create a better life. They know they can have a better career, and you should know this too. You can own your power to create happiness and fulfillment for yourself. Yes – you have it within you, but first, you have to ignore the doubters, leave all the haters behind and take control of your own mind.
The difference between success and failure is often grit. And when you get up and put one foot in front of the other – even if you can only take baby steps – you are showing that you have the determination, persistence and grit necessary to change your whole life.
The real questions are:
- Do you want what you want bad enough to take that first step?
- Are you willing to go after that new job or new career even if it might disappoint someone else?
- Do you want that big win bag enough to change your thinking and even your behavior?
3. Don’t give yesterday’s failures more power than tomorrow’s successes
You might have made some big messes in your life and in your career. You might have dropped the ball on some big projects. You might have struggled – and even lost – with a variety of legal, mental, family, relationship or career challenges. If so, you will have some heavy lifting in front of you, but you absolutely can repair your reputation, rebuild relationships, and restore your career.
Successful people do the work necessary to make amends where necessary and then make peace within themselves so they can create a different and better tomorrow. Don’t let your past indiscretions, missteps or failures consume any more of your life than you’ve already given. Reflect on your failures, learn from them and then keep it moving or you risk allowing past regrets to overwhelm your ability to ever really achieve anything different and better for yourself.
It doesn’t matter. What you failed at yesterday doesn’t matter. What you never achieved, gave away – and even what you accomplished yesterday – doesn’t really matter. Realize that everyone struggles, but only the people who stand up and start (even if it means starting over) have any chance of success.
4. Don’t try to coast on past successes for too long
What you did to get where you are may not be enough to get you where you want to go next. If your goal is to keep advancing your career, you can’t rest on your laurels and ride yesterday’s gravy train. You have to do something different today to get something different tomorrow.
Successful people know they are only as good as their last win, their last success or their last accomplishment. What you accomplished yesterday is great, but if you stop with that, you risk becoming irrelevant without having anything new to celebrate or new goals to embrace.
Yes, you should celebrate your efforts. Relish in the big successes, and the small ones as well, but not for so long that you forget how to grind. Don’t stop for so long that you lose your motivation. Don’t stop for so long that you can’t find inspiration. Successful people stay hungry, and they understand that their best and worst battles in life will actually be found within themselves.
5. Don’t let fear stop you from saying yes when you need to
Is your fear of risk, failure or rejection causing you to pass up opportunities to expand your network, develop new relationships and advance your career? Are you passing on opportunities for growth and change because you don’t want to be made to feel uncomfortable? Is fear paralyzing your ability to advance your career?
There are mainly three different types of fears that hold people back from experiencing greater levels of success – the fear of failure, the fear of success and the fear of rejection. These fears cause many people to say no far too often when they should be saying yes, and they cause people to resist taking the kind of career risks that can open doors to new and amazing opportunities.
In order to achieve the career success you want, you have to say yes more often and take more career risks. Career risks might include things like:
- Voluntarily accepting a demotion in pay or title because the lower position would put you on the better career path for you to break in with a much more suited position.
- Seeking out and accepting assignments way outside your job description or comfort zone because they provide opportunities for learning new skills or serving on different teams that could help to expand your network.
- Investing your own money into your entrepreneurial venture because no one else has yet to appreciate your talents enough to invest in you.
- Relocating for a new job because you know you’ve totally outgrown your current role, but the next step for you only exists in a different city, state or country.
6. Don’t waste time searching for happiness
Happiness isn’t something you find, it’s something you create. Successful people know this. They also know that, in order to create happiness, they have to control their thinking, remain focused and disciplined, ask for what they want and persevere through the ups and downs of life.
Successful people make decisions about who they are and align their behavior and lifestyle with those decisions. Successful people set goals about their careers and then become laser-focused on goal achievement. Successful people prioritize their needs and are willing to move outside their comfort zone to satisfy those needs.
The truly successful people demonstrate the mental fortitude necessary to sustain meaningful success. They recognize that money and career success aren’t the whole of it. Successful people know they must also experience inner peace and joy as well. For these people, it starts and ends with aligning their purpose, passion and principles with their decisions, behavior and career choices.
7. Don’t undervalue your potential
Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are — Malcolm Forbes
You must develop an invincible attitude to leave a mark on the world. You have an ocean full of potential inside you, so never make the mistake to undervalue your potential. The truth is that you’ve got everything it takes to be successful but it will take everything you’ve got.
There would be people out there saying all the nasty things about you on your face or your back. Don’t let anyone else define your potential. Go all out there and prove the naysayers wrong.